How To Make Your Presence Important In a Group

To be the ignored person in a group of people is a fear we all share. No one wants to feel left out. Sometimes this is just in your head but at other times, you actually might be right. This surely is one of the most heartbreaking things that you will ever witness. As and when you grow older, sticking to a constant set of people becomes very important.

It becomes a lot trickier to. Be it a group of friends, colleagues or just a formal group of associates, it is everyone's desire to stand out and leave his/her mark. Although difficult, it is not impossible and this article would share things to do and not do in order to become an important part of a group.

• Pick your moments:

It is important to know when to talk and when not to. People who speak when silence would be a better option or who talk too much usually get ignored. Added to this, it is rude to joke at odd times. Therefore, you have to read the mood of the group before contributing. You should be very particular about what you say, when you say it and how you say it. This is key if you do not want to turn people off.

• Be yourself:

Don't creep people out. Be yourself even though you are part of a group. Don't be that new guy who becomes a chatterbox in order to impress the group. Being talkative and creepy would make you come across as needy. What is the hack then? Well, it is rather simple.

Go with your intuition. With a new group, do not be over friendly. Do not also stand away from the group as this would be viewed as a lack of self-confidence and to be honest, most people don't like that.

• Keep your temper in check:

If you are the kind with a short fuse, keeping a check on your temper is yet another important thing. If you are quick to lose your temper, chances are that people will stay away from you.

 You need to understand that being a part of a group means you must co exist with others.

This means you would have to be tolerant and sometimes, let things go. You must learn to aim for compromises. Always make sure you keep a check on your temper and language.

• Go with the flow:

You don't have to be mister/miss right all the time. If you are in a group, people will joke around, have fun and pull pranks at your expense. Don't be such a crybaby about it. Give as good as you get. Remember, the point of being in a group is to co-exist; have a good time and achieve a common goal. Of course, you should draw a line as you should not take it all so no one would take you for granted.

• Don't be an attention seeker:

Doing things just to catch the eye is a reflection of low self-confidence and should be avoided. As mentioned earlier, you should be you and go with what feels instinctual. 

Do not try to fit into a group at all cost; it usually does not work out well when you do this. In summary, you should do things that make you happy and not just to impress others.